Episode 008
Before you Speak, Resource yourself like this
Hosted by Jeremy de Tolly
About this Episode
Have you ever walked into a meeting knowing exactly what you wanted to say… only to freeze the moment all eyes turned toward you?
In this episode, Jeremy explains why communication fear isn't simply a confidence or mindset problem, but rather a full-body and brain response.
When we're under pressure, our brain shifts into survival mode. We lose access to clear thinking, struggle to find words, and often leave conversations replaying everything we "should have said."
Jeremy introduces a simple, powerful grounding technique—the 5-4-3-2-1 Resourcing Method. This is a practical tool used to help settle the mind and body, return to the present moment, and access your natural ability to communicate.
Whether you experience public speaking fear, freeze during meetings, overthink conversations, or simply want to feel more confident using your voice, this episode offers a practical first step toward lasting change.
You will learn:
● Why communication fear is a full-body and brain response—not a lack of confidence.
● What happens in your brain when you enter fight, flight or freeze.
● Why positive thinking and mindset techniques often aren't enough.
● How unresolved conditioning can keep you stuck in communication fear.
● What "self-leadership" means and why it's essential for confident communication.
● How the 5-4-3-2-1 Resourcing Technique helps you return to the present moment.
● Simple ways to settle your mind and body before meetings, presentations or difficult conversations.
● How to move from fear and overthinking into calm, connection and authentic expression.
Listen or watch this episode on your favourite platform!
Resources & next steps
If you’d like to explore this work further:
Resources and Guides
Practical, expert-created tools to help you reclaim your voice, reduce fear, and elevate your presence.
Private coaching with Jeremy
Personalised support to help you move through fear of speaking and speak with clarity and confidence.
Support this work:
The Radiant Foundation
Providing free resilience tools and support to underprivileged communities in South Africa
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