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E068 - Stressed in a Group Setting: Use Tapping to Feel Better communication self-regulation tapping trauma patterns Jun 28, 2024

What do we do when we are triggered (or even trauma) arises in a group setting?

Say you're at work, and someone does something that's triggering: you start to go into a freeze or you start to head towards rage and explode… Whatever this reaction pattern is, it’s not optimal.

You can...

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E063 - Squirrel vs Neighbor boundaries fawn self-regulation Mar 25, 2024

Picture this: a tranquil morning on Toronto Island, the sun lazily peeking through the windows, casting a soft glow upon the scene. Our protagonist (me), nestled comfortably on the couch, observing the island's morning rituals unfold. 

Suddenly my neighbor, clad in a white dressing gown with...

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E060 – The Festive Season Survival Playbook boundaries communication healthy boundaries heart self-regulation tapping Dec 21, 2023

This blog is about surviving and thriving in the festive season—at family events, at parties, barbecues or braais or whatever you call them in your country. They could also be work events and mixers and other social and potentially stressful events.

I'll share five tips...

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E059 - Polyvagal Theory and Communication communication fawn self-regulation trauma patterns vocal liberation Nov 30, 2023

In this blog post I discuss polyvagal theory for voice, for communication, and for speaking.

“Polly who?” you may be thinking.

Read on below or watch the video to learn about polyvagal theory and how it can help you improve your communication and public speaking.

Polyvagal theory...

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E055 - How to Communicate When All You Really Want to Do Is Shut Down communication self-regulation transform your voice trauma patterns Sep 28, 2023

Sometimes when you need to express yourself in a meeting or an important one-on-one, do you find yourself freezing, shutting down, the words just not wanting to come out? I know firsthand that this can be incredibly painful, because I've had a bunch of this in my own life.

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E054 – Speaking too quickly communication self-regulation tapping Sep 14, 2023

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Doyoufindyourselfspeakingtoofastsometimes? Likegettingallthewordsoutreallyquicklyandjustneedingtogetthemalloutatonce?

Ok… let's just slow down for a second. Do you find yourself speaking too quickly sometimes, the words just tumbling out in a rush? You're not necessarily as...

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E048 - Three tips to presenting your best self communication heart self-regulation Mar 09, 2023

I'd like to share some really simple ways of presenting your best self. Even in front of 50 people, or 10 people in a meeting, these are simple ways to bring yourself into clarity and alignment to express exactly what you want to say. 

Many of us walk into a group setting and get a little...

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When Did You Feel Comfortable in Your Skin? authenticity freedom radiant voices radiant voices academy safety self-love self-regulation transform your voice trauma vocal liberation Sep 05, 2022

Yesterday I was running before dawn, with my head torch bobbling out a thin arc of white light. As I huffed and puffed in the freezing darkness, I remembered something awkward and painful from when I was 20 years old.

I remembered being in a club called The Playground, filled with cool kids...

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When You Freeze Under the Spotlight and All Eyes are Upon You ambient music jeremy de tolly safety self-regulation transform your voice vocal liberation Aug 24, 2022

I walked onto the stage with my body vibrating with fear.

Bright spotlights on me, I could barely see the audience.

I sat down at the huge, shiny black Bosendorpher grand piano.

Took a long, deep breath.

I was shaking.

I was about to play the first song from my then new solo piano album,...

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E026 - Listen to Ambient Music – Release Anxiety and feel Grounded ambient music self-regulation waking up Aug 17, 2020

Welcome to you, to here to this channel, to this moment, to this exact moment, as we begin, let's just get feet on the ground, really feeling the lower halves of our bodies. Today, we are gonna talk about one of the greatest hacks for shifting the state of one's nervous system and getting out of...

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