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Are you good at being consistent and showing up?

Are you focused, or do you tend to get distracted and pulled into a thousand things?

Do you dabble in many interests, or do you follow through with just a few and go deep?

If you want to heal your trauma and negative conditioning, empower and...

I often think about our first words as babies... starting with 'gaaaaaa', then leveling up to 'ma' or 'dada'

We began as these beautiful, open little beings. And as our parents interacted with us, we learned the rules for communicating.

Hopefully they loved us, told us so, and we could feel their...

"Stop singing!" we yelled but we were laughing.

Dad chimed in, "It's awful!"

My mom used to sing a comical song to tease us: "When the Red, Red Robin Comes Bob, Bob, Bobbin' Along" by Doris Day.

The family would laugh and shout, and eventually she would stop singing. It was all rather jolly and...

Yesterday I was running before dawn, with my head torch bobbling out a thin arc of white light. As I huffed and puffed in the freezing darkness, I remembered something awkward and painful from when I was 20 years old.

I remembered being in a club called The Playground, filled with cool kids...

Here's a picture from when I was 20 years old. Aside from looking desperately undead, I was having a really rough time.

Beneath that cool, frozen zombie exterior I was battling with depression. I was in the second year of a commerce degree that I hated, barely attending classes and was failing...

Here's my take on what 'best practice' is for waking up, healing, and thriving in 2021. In essence, it's my opinion on how to develop a sense of harmony and wellbeing while living this wild, beautiful and rather short human life!

Get ready to give me your opinion on whether this rings true for...

Hello, welcome to another blog. This one is about the movement from Self-regulation to Co-regulation (from Me to We).

Watch the video below, or enjoy the written version!

So who's in charge of your nervous system right now? What's happening in your nervous system? What's happening in...

Are you a narcissist? Am I a narcissist? This, my friends, is a complex topic. This week’s episode continues on from last week’s investigation of the Fight response as one of the four Fs of Fight, Flight, Freeze and Fawn. And we’re going to dive into Narcissism as it relates to...

So you're in the kitchen with a significant other and they're talking about something and they're being really irritating. They're saying stuff that's really triggering you and there's this heat in your belly and you’re holding on to it, you're holding on to it and then it starts to build...

Well hello, how are you? I’m great, thank you—really well. Everything’s great! I’m fine... Or at least I'm pretending to be fine!  

Welcome to this week'sblog, about the trauma pattern of “fawn” and being too darned nice (or just a little bit passive...

Shame and healing social engagement. What a topic, one that is close to my heart and well known to my innards, my gut, my nervous system. How about you?

Enjoy the video, or read the blog below

Shame is a complex emotion with a simple definition.  One definition is that it’s “a...