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E019 - The Verbal Defence Pattern of Fight (part 2)

trauma vocal liberation Jun 22, 2020

Are you a narcissist? Am I a narcissist? This my friends is a complex topic. This week’s episode continues on from last week’s investigation of the Fight response as one of the four Fs of Fight, Flight, Freeze and Fawn. And we’re going to dive into Narcissism as it relates to the Fight Type. We’re also going to look at recovery and healing for our fighters, and how a healthy fight response is necessary for our survival and wellbeing.
So stick around if you are one of the people who blurts out their feelings, fights & gets it all out. Or stick around if you don’t but you know people like that. 

Enjoy this week's video episode, or continue reading the blog below!

Let’s talk about Narcissism. Firstly, what is it? The simplest definition is an excessive need for admiration, disregard for others' feelings, an inability to handle any criticism and a sense of entitlement. And it’s worth knowing 3 signs of potential narcissism: one, a...

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E018 - The Verbal Defence Pattern of Fight (part 1)

trauma vocal liberation Jun 15, 2020

So you're in the kitchen with a significant other and they're talking about something and they're being really irritating. They're saying stuff that's really triggering you and there's this heat in your belly and you’re holding on to it, you're holding on to it and then it starts to build up inside, building up, you’re keeping quiet but these thoughts are racing through your head and it’s building towards the point of no return… what happens next?!?!?

Either… verbally blast them with how you feel, and maybe you say something cutting, disembowel them with a blade.  Or you shut down inside and run away, and you go into the next room and you try and process what’s happening. If you are the first person who just lets it out, this video is about you, the ones with a strong fight response.

Enjoy this week's video episode, or continue reading the blog below!

Now to contextualise, we’re talking about the Fight response as part of the...

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E017 - Fawn and the Defence-Pattern of Being Extremely Nice

vocal liberation May 29, 2020

Well Hello, how are you? I’m great, thank you, really well. Everything’s great! I’m fine. Or at least I'm pretending to be fine!

Welcome to this week's blog about the trauma pattern of Fawn and being too darn nice (or just a little bit passive aggressive). Either watch the video or read the blog below. Enjoy!


So, I don't know about you do but the culture I was brought up in contains an element of being nice, which also encouraged having no boundaries. So, we like to constantly pretend that everything is fine, and it’s important to us to consistently be as nice as possible to other human beings, including when we don't mean it.
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So at a deeper level, in the work of complex PTSD specialist Peter Walker, Fawn is seen as the 4th...

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E016 - Releasing Shame and Healing Social Engagement

trauma vocal liberation May 15, 2020

Shame and healing social engagement. What a topic, one that is close to my heart and well known to my innards, my gut, my nervous system. How about you?

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Shame is a complex emotion with a simple definition.  One definition is that it’s “a painful emotion caused by consciousness of guilt, shortcoming, or impropriety”. For me the feeling of it is a kind of queasy, sick, debilitating paralyzed, self judging, self rejecting, feeling... and it's awful and I know it quite well. I have often described myself as “a shame baby”, in other words it is a negative emotion that I know well; where other people have different kinds of issues... maybe major anxiety, or major rage, or depression. 

So I know well the feeling of it… a kind of toxic chemical flood into the whole body, that numbs, hurts and paralyses. And no, it's not a nice feeling at all. And so for any of you who know this feeling, please say hi...

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E015 - The under-appreciated art of listening

vocal liberation May 08, 2020

Well, hey there. Great to see you here. Welcome to this blog and today we're going to be investigating the art of listening. In other words, how to really hear people, and let them feel heard. I know this is a place where I could really improve, I’m on a journey with this too, so I’ll definitely be watching this video to the end and implementing the strategies and behaviours suggested here. Watch the video, or read the blog below!

So, why bother being a good listener? I think for one, it can fundamentally change the quality of our relationships at work, at home, socially, and even online. I think it applies to both zoom chats  as well as in-person conversations. 

If you’re watching this on Youtube – please click the subscribe button below. OK let’s dive in, and you can put these listening guidelines into action as you watch this.

Topic One: How to listen. So the first thing to do is to be present. Take a deep breath and try and breathe...

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E014 - The rather unpleasant consequences of keeping your mouth shut

Hey, how are you? So, this blog is titled “The consequences of keeping your mouth shut”. And this is going to be an exploration into the world of “vocal shut down” - especially in relationships, and what happens when we stop saying how we feel. I will say from the outset, this is a pretty personal topic for me. I've spent a lot of time bypassing hard and negative emotions and suppressing anger. And so I'm really fascinated by the process of learning to speak how you feel and get it all out, and I've really observed in my own body and in my clients the consequences of keeping your mouth shut, when we've got all kinds of feelings happening down in our belly and in our chest. 

Before we go any further - watch the Youtube channel or read the blog below. Enjoy!

So how does it work? I'm going to explore some of the patterns and symptoms that I've observed in myself and in my clients around vocal shutdown. 

One of the things that's kind of...

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E013 - How vocal liberation can support you to create deeper authenticity and healthier boundaries

Well, hey there. Great to see you. This week's episode explores how vocal liberation can support you to create deeper authenticity and healthier boundaries. 

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Thank you for joining me here in my studio. So, today I'm going to be talking about authenticity and boundaries, oh what a subject! Oh, I have so much to learn, but there's so much to be said about it, and I'm going to share what I have today. I’m just gonna say from the outset that authenticity and boundaries,  are  complex subjects. And our culture has a whole lot of conditioning to offer on being agreeable and saying that we are fine no matter how we're feeling. And domesticating the powerful NO right out of us until we say YES all the time even when we don’t mean it. 

And so being authentic is a work in progress for all of us, and developing boundaries is not easy. And I'm going to say that I am no master of the subject, but I'm going to share...

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E008 - How to sing in tune reliably, for the rest of your life

Hello friends

Welcome to another episode. In this episode I'll be delving deep into one very simple thing and that is how to sing in tune for the rest of your life, reliably.

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So that's quite a big promise but I feel confident that in time we'll at least be able to lay out the groundwork you'd need to do to be able to do this for the rest of your life and I'm just going to begin by saying that, in my experience no one is tone deaf but it's just a little bit like some people got thrown out of the birthday party at age six or eight or twelve and stopped singing and stopped believing they could sing. Sometimes they got told they couldn't or shouldn't sing and it's a question of creating a safe space for them to rediscover this beautiful facility and develop trust in it for the rest of their lives.

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E007 - Releasing voices and healing blocks

Hey Lovely Folk

So this is going to be another episode of unplanned, unscripted communication.

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As you can see I'm sitting on a tropical island, it’s been raining a little bit, kind of windy and here we are.

I wanted to share with you a little bit about what it's like doing the work releasing voices, making music on this island; I'm down in the southeast at a place called The Sanctuary Thailand. A beautiful retreat venue. So, people come here to heal and detox - and sometimes retox - but really what I come here to do is run a workshop, which I'll be doing tomorrow for three days with my wonderful colleague Fiona Soma but I'm also doing one-on-ones and leading meditations and leading music evenings and it's pretty awesome. There's a lot of barefoot walking down sandy paths with Indian minor birds chirruping in there in the trees and then there's just the work really, and just to share what it's like, I'd love to...

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E003 - Liberate a stuck speaking or singing voice (set your voice free)

vocal liberation Jan 17, 2020

Quickly overcome problems with your speaking and singing voice. If you're one of those people who think you have a bad voice, or are afraid to speak or sing in front of people, this video is for you.
We’ll look at:

- how this part of your body got blocked in the first place
- what you can do about it
- let your voice become a powerful asset - one that you can feel proud about and love

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